Every relationship is unique in its own way. Depending on which part of the world you are in, how you and your partner met or what your cultural backgrounds are, each relationship has its own special story. However, when you look beyond the surface, all great relationships have one thing in common. Both the partners are ready and willing to invest necessary time and energy to make the relationship work.
Great relationships don’t happen by accident. You must understand that both you and your partner are unique individuals with different expectations from your relationship and from life in general. The key to a successful relationship is to find a balance and to meet half way between your own and your partner’s needs. You must develop clarity about your own subjective expectations and try to view them objectively from your partner’s perspective.
If you carefully reflect and review your individual identity, you will see that it is constantly changing. You are not the same person you were back in kindergarten, high school or college. Your identity, personality and expectations from life evolved according to your circumstances and what you were passionate about at different stages of your life. If you are really passionate about your relationship, you will easily find a balance between your individual expectations and what the relationship truly needs to blossom.
You can even think of it this way. If you own a house or a car, you will take even a small scratch seriously. You will give it necessary attention and fix it immediately. However, if you rent that same house or a car, little damages here and there won’t really bother you as much. Similarly, if you are looking for a lasting relationship, you must treat it as a long term valuable investment and nurture it with care whenever required.
When you and your partner reach a deeper level of connection, you will effortlessly put your relationship before your individual self. You will willingly let go of what is causing conflicts and hold on to what is truly important in your relationship.