One of the most common reasons why people are unhappy is the imaginary gap between their expected image of an ideal happy life and their actual reality.
If you can learn to address this imaginary gap with full clarity of who you are and what you are truly passionate about in life, it can result in a very positive experience filled with exploration, drive, growth and transformation. However, when people simply copy someone else’s definition happiness and seek inner peace from external inputs such as accumulation of things or approval of others, it becomes the root cause of stress, anxiety and unhappiness.
You can never find inner peace if you are searching for it in the wrongs place. Everyone you meet will have their own definitions of happiness based on where they are born, how they grew up and what they have seen, felt, and experienced in their lives so far. And they will all try to convince you that their version of a happy life is the ideal one. Starting from the very first thing you can remember as a child till the moment you are reading this very sentence, you have been told what “happiness” is and how you can achieve it by your parents, teachers, friends relatives, media, government and religious leaders.
It is your job to figure out what you truly want in life. Pause, take a deep breath and ask yourself what is stopping you from enjoying all the dimensions of your life to the fullest spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally? Dig deep. Look within. You can’t fake it or simply copy someone else’s definition of happiness.
Don’t let external circumstances control your inner well-being. Figure out what is making you unhappy. Change the things you can such as choosing where you live, your job or friends etc. And learn to accept those that you simply can’t change such as controlling other people’s thoughts, feeling and actions.
Don’t give anyone or anything the privilege of disturbing your inner peace.
Happiness is a state of mind. And you alone have full control over it.